Sarah Blake, Author

This is something the majority of working people deal with on a day to day basis. It’s all part of finding your balance between work and family. It’s a difficult balancing act, especially if you run your own business and if you work at home.

Some of us work in our homes; others go to our “office”. Wherever we work, we have one thing in common. Work is on our minds a lot. In order to escape from work, we have to put it in its own little compartment in our minds; otherwise it will fill up the rest of our lives. You are not your job and your job is not you!

1. Draw the line in the sand between work and home is to have a stopping point or set working hours. Now, we can’t always abide by the set working hours but if you discipline yourself, you c more fulfilling life and stop worrying about work so much.

1. Assign a specific area as business only. Maybe you have an office you can leave but you take your work home with you. Have a designated area for work and then leave that too when it’s time to relax.

1. Separate your communication systems. Have a separate phone number and email for work and don’t combine them with your personal email addresses.

1. Plan days off, vacations, essentially, get a life!

1. Minimize your workload with applications or software that will help you. If you are heavy in record keeping for taxes and keeping your contacts straight, file everyday instead of waiting until it all piles up.

1. Ask for help-if you are having trouble with something, don’t dwell, ask for help! It will cut down your time working so you can enjoy the rest of your day.

Sometimes, I think my greatest challenge is beat the clock. I never seem to have time to get all those things don’t trust having an assistant at this point (learned from personal experience) so I have to find other ways to manage my time and also find time to write.

I think my best times to write are in the morning when no one else is awake and in the evening, either before bed or in bed. I also love to write when I am on airplanes. There is a stillness of no phones ringing that makes it easy. Plus, what else am I going to do for 3-6 hours or longer besides sleep?

Finding the best time to write for me comes in stages. Sometimes I write a bunch of drafts for my blogs or outlines for ebooks, tipguides or podcasts. Other times, I’m wanting to write more of the body of the draft posts. Yet others, I”m ready to add links and pics to go with everything. Its a continual process, not just sitting and typing away on onw projects at a time but switching back and forth to keep the creative flow going.

With my multitude of projects, I needed websites for each one. I quickly learned how to install wordpress, found out the newer version is not like the old one, and had to tweak several things to make it all work. I really enjoy it much more than I though I would. Its encouraged me to really delve into the details of CSS, HTML, and SEO.  There is one thing I must always do…

KISS-Keep it simple stupid

I love this saying and I should probably hang a sign on my computer monitor to remind me,lol. I always seem to overcomplicate and take on too much.  I eventually sort it all out and continue with the grind of adding little touches here and there.

I’m not very adept at the whole design aspect but I’m getting better. With some practice, I’ll have my blog themes customized exactly the way I want them. I’m currently speed learning how to alter the theme for my companion website. That website is way over complicated and I can’t decide whether I want to start completely over again or tweak it to death,lol.

Right now, my work load is a bit overwhelming but I still feel very positive about everything. Things never move as fast as I would like but its a process, always a work in  progress.

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I have been busy during my hiatus away from being a paid companion. I have been outlining many, many books, writings, “how to’s” and more. Delving into my first book has led me to want to write even more. Its just not wanting to write things down though, its doing it right so I can help others through my life experiences. It may seem trite to some, but I’ve been through quite a bit in my short time here. I’ve learned so many things that I want to pass onto others. Maybe they won’t have to make the same mistakes, maybe they will save money, or maybe they can just smile from my writings.

I have some exciting work ahead of me with a certain passion of mine. I’m writing a book of short stories. The stories are inspired from my experiences in BDSM and my sessions as a Mistress. Some of the writings are just complete fantasy and have no bearing in the real world. I decided to delve into this side of writing after submitting a short about a session I had with a slave and the feedback I received was astounding. They wanted me to submit it into a contest for BDSM writings to be published.

Here is an Excerpt from one of my short stories:

Today, one of my favorite slaves came over. He loves to know that I write about him because is an attention whore. He’s my whore though and I so enjoy our time together. He is an exhibitionist at heart and I invited another Domina over so he could entertain us both. She was also very pleased with my slave. You see, he is still in training but doing extremely well. I was very proud to show him off. He was very nervous with the both of us standing over him as he presented himself. We circled him like hungry sharks, inspecting him, touching, pinching and slapping him. He burned with embarrassment as I asked him to get undressed for us. He was so anxious that he forgot to do it slowly. I will punish him for that later. But first…

“Go clean yourself and  fetch some toys on your way back. You have 5 minutes.”

He returned with not a second to spare, and once again presented himself, this time naked. He is a beautiful slave, obedient, and clever. He had fixed a make-shift hammock for the toys in a washcloth that he had in his mouth. He waited patiently, arms folded behind his back. I took the toys from him and placed them on the table among the other special items I had out for our playtime today.

I collared him with his collar. Every slave that has achieved 3 months of training and is showing measured improvement is fitted with their very own collar.  Henry’s collar is black and has the letter “H” stamped on it. he is quite handsome in it and he knows it. He is a little vain for a submissive but there is nothing wrong with being proud of his accomplishments.

I had him take off my boots as well as Lady Ellese’s. I laugh to myself remembering how he tried to keep up with 4 demanding feet. The poor dear couldn’t get them all in his mouth no matter hard hard he tried.  I enjoy making unreasonable demands of Henry. He face burns so sweetly with the shame of knowing he did not complete this task.

I grabbed his chin to make him look up at me, “You training has been going to well. For this, you are being rewarded. Are you grateful for this reward?”

He nodded in answer.

I grabbed his nipple with my thumb and index finger and twisted, “Are you sure?”

“Yes, oh yes Ma’am, I am so grateful, thank you Ma’am! ”

“Then why can’t you do as I ask of you? Its a simple task, perhaps you are trying to anger me?”

Poor Henry is confused at what to do, “No, I would never want to anger you Ma’am.” He whimpers so well.

“Now, you will have to be punished for being such an ungrateful whore.  The Lady came over special just for you and this is how you act. its pathetic. Go fetch my cane.”

Again, he scurries, ass in the ass and brings back the cane in his teeth like he has been taught to do.

“Face on the floor, ass up!” I command.

Henry did what he was told, his pretty ass in the air, waiting for torture. Henry likes a hard beating, he is a painslut. He sexualizes his pain into pleasure and gets off on it. That is a beautiful thing to watch as you strike someone for thier erection to grow, thier desire come to a boil, but of course not blooming until I say so.

As I start to kneed Henry’s ass cheeks, he moans softly. He knows what I am about to do but I can tell he is nervous with Lady Ellesse here with us. I know he is wondering if either she, I or perhaps both of us will be caning him. He knows I have more than one cane. He also knows that Lady Ellese enjoys caning spiteful little bitch-boys because I told him about other sessions I have had with her. The anticipation must be difficult for him.

Lady Ellese rises from her chair and come around to Henry’s face. She places her foot on his head to hold him still for me, then gives me the sweetest cruelest smile. There are many reason’s that I enjoy playing with Lady Ellese and that smile reminds me of all of them at once as a rush of past sessions run through my mind.

The cane is near but I have not decided to use it yet. I want Henry’s skin warm and ready for it. I rub Henry’s ass a little more before the first smack.  Henry sucks in his breath as best he can as Lady Ellesse applies more pressure with her foot.  She grabs his hair with her toes as I spank his ass again and again.